- Tamron Hall, host of the new Tamron Hall show, closed out the day at Good Housekeeping‘s We Are Family Parenting Summit in New York City on September 26.
- During the Q&A, Hall opened up about her hardest parenting moments, her relationship with her husband, and how other moms were the key to helping her feel seen.
- We Are Family was a daylong event with keynote speakers, panel discussions, Q&A sessions, and a product expo meant to connect parents to brands they love.
Tamron Hall brought two new beings into the world recently: her son, Moses, who’s now 5 months old, and her show, Tamron Hall, which made its debut in September. She joined Jane Francisco, Editorial Director of the Hearst Lifestyle Group, up on stage to talk about both at Good Housekeeping‘s We Are Family Parenting Summit, which invited experts from the worlds of beauty, nutrition, fashion, commerce, and online communities to talk about ways that brands can be better at serving an audience of parents.
“[Parenting] has been a wonderful, magical experience,” Hall says. “It’s also harder than anything I’ve ever done. Not because of the diaper changes and what products to use. That I can figure out. It’s that you have someone’s life in your hands. That’s what’s so hard.”
For Hall, the joys of being a mom come with the pressure to make sure she’s doing it right. She admitted that it’s driven her to tears — including one memorable moment when she broke down in the parking lot of a Target.
My son kept spitting up. My mom said, ‘Why is he spitting up so much? I think it may be the milk.’ So I called the doctor, and I said, ‘Let’s change to Similac Sensitive.’ I changed it, and he still spit up. We went to another milk. I was worried. He was retaining weight — if you see pictures of my son, he’s like a little German wrestler. My doctor said, ‘Well, his body is still developing.’ But I was feeling so much pressure to try to get that part right. I went to Target, and I was just crying in the parking lot, thinking, ‘What milk am I going to get?’ It makes me emotional even now, because I felt so alone. Then, like a light switch, two weeks later, he’s no longer throwing up. It wasn’t any milk change, it was just time.
After that incident, Hall realized that it was really the pressure, both external and internal, that caused her tears — even more sod than the spit-up. “All of these alarm bells go off, and you worry that you’ll be judged, or you’ll judge yourself,” she said. “Now, five months later, I realize it’s just time. He’s a developing, living being.”
Throughout it all, Hall says that she relies mostly on other, more veteran parents to get her through — and fill her in on the parts of parenthood that might not be intuitive. “On the second or third day after I brought my son home, his face looked Edward Scissorhands,” she remembered. “It was all scratched it up. My friend came over, and my son had to put a onesie on. I was in tears, saying, ‘Look at his face, he’s all chewed up. Those stupid mittens they make don’t fit!’ And she said, ‘Tamron, that’s a mitten on the end of the onesie!’ I thought it was a French cuff. There’s no chapter in What to Expect that says it’s not a French cuff!”
The experience taught her to rely more on those around her. “After that, I just started asking people everything,” she said. “After everything I’ve read, and I’ve read a thousand articles, nothing is more comforting than talking to another parent who says, ‘I went through the exact same thing.’”
But asking for help from others can be hard for Hall, who admitted that she often tries to do everything herself. In fact, she even famously kept her pregnancy to herself — almost up until the end. At the event, she shared for the first time that she felt forced to reveal the pregnancy because someone had leaked the news to a tabloid.
“We got a call,” she said. “They didn’t ask, they said they knew. We assume it was the hospital, because I’d just checked in to get my room. So I had to tell. I have to hold my destiny and my own story in my hands. Also, I was a high risk. I was so scared that I was going to lose this pregnancy. I didn’t want to stress out about if people would know. My blood pressure didn’t spike, but I remember feeling anxiety. And I was so close. I was 32 weeks. And so we decided, let’s just embrace the happiness and the joy and not worry about what was to come.”
Until the leak, it was easy to keep her secret. “I wear a lot of long dresses and a lot of flowy dresses,” she said. “And when you’re 48, no one expects you to be pregnant. It’s like the easiest secret to keep, because it’s like you’re Methuselah. No one’s thinking, ‘Is she pregnant?’ It’s more like, ‘Oh, she gained some weight.’” Letting her secret out may not have gone the way she planned, but it’s almost worth it for the “Baby Shark” dance.
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